Nigerian Men getting very desperate to travel abroad by all means!

 It has now got to the point that Nigerian men as so desperate to leave the country in search of what many would call greener pastures and this  has led them to their death. In recent times we have been  shocked  with news of people dying in the wheel of a planes or cargo section, people trekking in the Sahara desert trying to cross into Spain or Italy at extreme weather conditions . Recently  a  dead body of a young Nigerian man found in the wheel of  Arik Air aircraft after it returned from a flight to New York, United States. One of the airline’s officials confirmed  that the deceased might have hidden himself in the wheel well  for days and was crushed to death while the flight was airborne to the JF Kennedy Airport, New York, from the Murtala Muhammed International Airport, Lagos. He added that the dead body was found during a check on the aircraft panel as it was being prepared for another flight and that the undercarriage compartment of the Airbus A340-500 is big enough to accommodate a person, besides the space for the tires. In March 2010, a Nigerian, Okechukwu Okeke was found dead in the nose wheel compartment of the United States carrier, Delta Airline, Boeing B777 aircraft parked on the tarmac of the Atlanta Airport in USA.
 
 Many of these desperate men meet their victims online in dating websites or during the Christmas period when many Nigerian  women  travel back to Nigeria in search of Husbands to be. Infarct some marriages occur in under one week of meeeting the lady for the first time during these festive periods under the notion that time is of essence and the unsuspecting gullible but desperate to be a madam victim usually fall for this without pausing to think why me ?  The men who succeed are known as smooth operatoe and normally profess their unending love laden  with many  lies just to get lady with papers or Green card  to  sponsor them, some have been known to put their targets in a family way but ensure that the mission is accomplished and that is coming to the USA only to be dumped when they achieve their aim which of course is a  US GREEN CARD. As soon as this is achieved   then they go right back to bring their  real lady that will honour and adore them from the village. They are very much aware that the Nigerian women in USA have lost a lot of cultural ideas and will not be compatible yet they are willing to stick it out and  say anything  to make it happen. Some of them have children already in Nigeria but will never disclose it to their would be desperate Lady. In a Country where there are ever willing ladies to sleep with men  for money  all over the country their health status also becomes an issue as well. This young man seen in the suitcase had parted with a lot of money to the Airport and Airline staff and was hoping to open his eye and breathe fresh air of USA where the girl he met online will be on hand with a Lawyer to file documents to make him stay . It is not clear if he mentioned to her the method he was intending to come to US with, but all said and done he is still breathing  the air in Nigeria as of today . Will people ever learn their lesson.? This scourge we must say is both sides and applies to desperate Nigerian ladies in Nigeria  seeking to migrate to USA but of recent there is a decline in that after series of Nigerian Movies like American Nurse opened the eyes of Nigerian men going back to bring a wife .


This piece is culled from our interview with Latresha  Okereke an American woman married to a Nigeria man

1. Africans/Nigerians only marry American women or Nigerian women with Green cared for a Green card and will leave them as soon as they get it. They've usually got a Nigerian wife or girlfriend back home that they will marry and bring to the states after dumping the American wife.
2. Nigerians are notorious womanizers. If they do stay with their American wife they will callously cheat on her.
3. Africans think of women as objects or property. He is controlling of his wife, her opinion doesn't matter, her place is in the kitchen and having babies, and the man has the right to beat his wife and will often be verbally abusive.
4. A Nigerian man wouldn't stay with a black American because her bloodline has been "tainted".
5. Nigerian/Igbo men become cold, unaffectionate, and unloving with their wives (and sometimes children)

My husband is applying for his residency based on our marriage, and so far has not been any of these stereotypes (except maybe a little controlling, but never abusively so). In fact he has been a stark contrast, almost a perfect contrast. He is extremely affectionate and loving, speaks respectfully to me, never raised a hand to me, and he at least makes me think he considers my opinion on things. My fear is that once his residency becomes permanent will he change? Is this a norm? I want to know the truth behind Nigerian men marrying American women and why the marriages that fall apart do so. And also how many of these marriages stay together.