DON'T MARRY HER IF SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU.
Is it possible to marry wrong, to marry a lady who doesn't want you? Absolutely!
A lady who doesn't want you can marry you and its not always money that makes them do so.
I thought most men should fear knowing that a lady who doesn't want them can for other reasons agree to marry them.
Let me try and illustrate what it's like to marry a girl who doesn't want you. I will attempt to do this using something we can all relate to.
If you haven't seen it yet, I'm sure you have heard about single ladies who after giving birth to a baby try to kill the baby. Some of them actually succeed while for others the baby is rescued.
There has been stories of babies found on refuse dumps, in a well, in a gutter. Recently one was found burried alive.
What in the world could make a woman desire so intensely to hurt a lovely and helpless baby she carried in her womb for nine good months ?
Clearly this fiends simply don't want that baby. They find themselves always scheming to harm their baby. In most cases, this ladies give birth to these babies after all efforts to secretly abort the pregnancy had failed.
Okay, if you think this illustration is too extreme then I will douse it a little. A lot of women who did not succeed in aborting their babies because they think that baby represents a huge stigma and set back for them, who also did not have the guts to leave their babies out in the open somewhere to die keep their babies and give him the definite "unwanted" treatments behind closed doors.
No they can't bring themselves to actually kill that baby but only that is the extreme they can't go. To them that baby is born to suffer.
As that child grows, the mother surprisingly doesn't do so much to provide that child with needed advantages every child deserves. Eventually the child begins to fend for himself long before he is ready.
She is angry with herself for having that child, she is angry with the child for crystalizing what was mean't to be a passing mistake. She wants to hurt that child because he permanently reminds her of a past she would rather have confined to the dark.
When a girl who doesn't want you marries you, you are close in her mind to that child left to himself/herself without motherly care or sacrifice.
Curiously, why in the world would a girl marry somebody she doesn't want in this modern time? Why torture herself and then by default extend this torture to the unfortunate spouse she marries.
Let me start by saying almost all ladies want to marry. Now that doesn't mean they don't have personal preference although MOST MEN act as if its their own place and duty exclusively to make the ladies want them. That is true but far from absolute!!
It must be noted that a lady would most likely reject any advance from someone she hates except there are enough "things" to compensate and even then she would hold back almost forever from giving her consent to enter into a permanent commitment.
So what do I mean by somebody she doesn't WANT. I don't mean someone she hates, I mean when you are not the one she actually prefer. She has plans, high hopes and fantasies and you don't feature in it.
Unfortunately she doesn't have much power in making the one she prefer to come for her without risking her self respect. That in itself is making her feel like a victim already. If she ever agrees to marry you, unconsciously you are one of the many valid reasons that made her prefered man to stay away.
So she doesn't necessarily hate you but she thinks all the dreams she took a hundred months to put together is gone with the winds because she is ending up with you.
Men should understand that if they have enough working strategies and with enough patience they can commit a number of women to marry them even if she doesn't want them.
It took some guys two to six years for the ladies they married to say yes to them and I thought no woman would keep the man she had dreamed about for months waiting for that long.
Women suffer longing too; perhaps more intensely than men and I think that should be respected by men. Don't always seek to OVERRULE and OVERRIDE her preference. Its not wise!!
If you have to use all of you might to pressure a woman into marrying you then my suspicion is that somebody else is her preference and I might as well warn you right away that she doesn't owe you much; at least according to her dreams concerning marriage. She is at best gratified that she eventually going to be married at least, and you might have to expect her least.
Too many marriages around show these basic dissatifaction. When ways to improve their marriages are suggested they respond as people who find those ideas grand but unwilling to practice it with their spouses.
Women have preference o, be sure you are her prefered if you desire to have her best and not her least.
Is it possible to marry wrong, to marry a lady who doesn't want you? Absolutely!
A lady who doesn't want you can marry you and its not always money that makes them do so.
I thought most men should fear knowing that a lady who doesn't want them can for other reasons agree to marry them.
Let me try and illustrate what it's like to marry a girl who doesn't want you. I will attempt to do this using something we can all relate to.
If you haven't seen it yet, I'm sure you have heard about single ladies who after giving birth to a baby try to kill the baby. Some of them actually succeed while for others the baby is rescued.
There has been stories of babies found on refuse dumps, in a well, in a gutter. Recently one was found burried alive.
What in the world could make a woman desire so intensely to hurt a lovely and helpless baby she carried in her womb for nine good months ?
Clearly this fiends simply don't want that baby. They find themselves always scheming to harm their baby. In most cases, this ladies give birth to these babies after all efforts to secretly abort the pregnancy had failed.
Okay, if you think this illustration is too extreme then I will douse it a little. A lot of women who did not succeed in aborting their babies because they think that baby represents a huge stigma and set back for them, who also did not have the guts to leave their babies out in the open somewhere to die keep their babies and give him the definite "unwanted" treatments behind closed doors.
No they can't bring themselves to actually kill that baby but only that is the extreme they can't go. To them that baby is born to suffer.
As that child grows, the mother surprisingly doesn't do so much to provide that child with needed advantages every child deserves. Eventually the child begins to fend for himself long before he is ready.
She is angry with herself for having that child, she is angry with the child for crystalizing what was mean't to be a passing mistake. She wants to hurt that child because he permanently reminds her of a past she would rather have confined to the dark.
When a girl who doesn't want you marries you, you are close in her mind to that child left to himself/herself without motherly care or sacrifice.
Curiously, why in the world would a girl marry somebody she doesn't want in this modern time? Why torture herself and then by default extend this torture to the unfortunate spouse she marries.
Let me start by saying almost all ladies want to marry. Now that doesn't mean they don't have personal preference although MOST MEN act as if its their own place and duty exclusively to make the ladies want them. That is true but far from absolute!!
It must be noted that a lady would most likely reject any advance from someone she hates except there are enough "things" to compensate and even then she would hold back almost forever from giving her consent to enter into a permanent commitment.
So what do I mean by somebody she doesn't WANT. I don't mean someone she hates, I mean when you are not the one she actually prefer. She has plans, high hopes and fantasies and you don't feature in it.
Unfortunately she doesn't have much power in making the one she prefer to come for her without risking her self respect. That in itself is making her feel like a victim already. If she ever agrees to marry you, unconsciously you are one of the many valid reasons that made her prefered man to stay away.
So she doesn't necessarily hate you but she thinks all the dreams she took a hundred months to put together is gone with the winds because she is ending up with you.
Men should understand that if they have enough working strategies and with enough patience they can commit a number of women to marry them even if she doesn't want them.
It took some guys two to six years for the ladies they married to say yes to them and I thought no woman would keep the man she had dreamed about for months waiting for that long.
Women suffer longing too; perhaps more intensely than men and I think that should be respected by men. Don't always seek to OVERRULE and OVERRIDE her preference. Its not wise!!
If you have to use all of you might to pressure a woman into marrying you then my suspicion is that somebody else is her preference and I might as well warn you right away that she doesn't owe you much; at least according to her dreams concerning marriage. She is at best gratified that she eventually going to be married at least, and you might have to expect her least.
Too many marriages around show these basic dissatifaction. When ways to improve their marriages are suggested they respond as people who find those ideas grand but unwilling to practice it with their spouses.
Women have preference o, be sure you are her prefered if you desire to have her best and not her least.
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