15 Years of Adulterous Endurance: In Defense of Anita Oyakhilome Written by Obinna Akukwe
, Chris Oyakhilome has obviously passed through 15 years of adulterous
endurance and what she needs is our prayers and protective respect and
defense of her choices to forget all the anti-rhapsody of heartbreak she
endured all these years.
Fifteen (15) years of being abandoned by a preacher husband is not an
way of life for a preacher’s wife. Fifteen (15) years of hearing that some
mini skirted daughters of Jezebel have taken over your possession
is not a joke. Fifteen years of a husband not staying with the wife for up
to a week on a stretch, while spending time with some double breasted
figure eight(ed) daughters of eve is not an easy thing to swallow.
15 years of being used as a showcase to make church members
believe in Rhapsodies of Blissful Union, while dying in silence, is not a
palatable experience for any woman.
way of life for a preacher’s wife. Fifteen (15) years of hearing that some
mini skirted daughters of Jezebel have taken over your possession
is not a joke. Fifteen years of a husband not staying with the wife for up
to a week on a stretch, while spending time with some double breasted
figure eight(ed) daughters of eve is not an easy thing to swallow.
15 years of being used as a showcase to make church members
believe in Rhapsodies of Blissful Union, while dying in silence, is not a
palatable experience for any woman.
Fifteen years of being called Mama, Mummy, and other glorified names
of Senior Pastor’s wife while some domestic harems sneer at the same
Mummy behind is not a sweet experience. For goodness sake, this woman
never probably had a good kiss in fifteen years and yet she is being accused
of carnality for crying out loud. She was continually being led into temptation
of seeking for sexual satisfaction from outside for fifteen years and she
managed to escape the traps of sin.
of Senior Pastor’s wife while some domestic harems sneer at the same
Mummy behind is not a sweet experience. For goodness sake, this woman
never probably had a good kiss in fifteen years and yet she is being accused
of carnality for crying out loud. She was continually being led into temptation
of seeking for sexual satisfaction from outside for fifteen years and she
managed to escape the traps of sin.
Fifteen years when their two lovely daughters would wake up and ask
their mother why Dad had not cared to visit, and she would have to
release a lie to stave off the frequent probing questions. Above all,
fifteen years when Anita had to fake that all is well with their
marriage, while she is actually dying emotionally.
Every person she complained to among the pastoral cadre
sided with the man, and she was left alone to bear her cross.
their mother why Dad had not cared to visit, and she would have to
release a lie to stave off the frequent probing questions. Above all,
fifteen years when Anita had to fake that all is well with their
marriage, while she is actually dying emotionally.
Every person she complained to among the pastoral cadre
sided with the man, and she was left alone to bear her cross.
I warned some pastor friends with Christ Embassy early 2013
that they had better settle this marriage rift between Oga and
his wife before it destroys the church. The same pastors have
called me to express regret that a national embarrassment has ensued.
that they had better settle this marriage rift between Oga and
his wife before it destroys the church. The same pastors have
called me to express regret that a national embarrassment has ensued.
This woman has been called Jezebel by some pastors and
members of the church. Some claimed she was disrespectful
while others claimed she was always bitter of recent. They have
tried to castigate her before members of the church who came in
private to ask for the way out. She was described as unreasonable
and insubordinate.
members of the church. Some claimed she was disrespectful
while others claimed she was always bitter of recent. They have
tried to castigate her before members of the church who came in
private to ask for the way out. She was described as unreasonable
and insubordinate.
Her husband, according to news reports has even followed to
cast her in bad light. According to Pastor Chris Oyakhilome,
“Bitterness is prolonged and accumulates danger. My wife is
always angry and bitter,” Going further he told his members to
“Be careful of the friends you keep. My wife keeps friends who
bring out the worst in her and help her see the worst in people,
instead of keeping friends that will help her vision, especially as
the wife of a global pastor like me.”
cast her in bad light. According to Pastor Chris Oyakhilome,
“Bitterness is prolonged and accumulates danger. My wife is
always angry and bitter,” Going further he told his members to
“Be careful of the friends you keep. My wife keeps friends who
bring out the worst in her and help her see the worst in people,
instead of keeping friends that will help her vision, especially as
the wife of a global pastor like me.”
Please, which preacher woman who has been abandoned for
fifteen years will not be bitter and angry? Was Anita expected to
clap and dance while some hot legs are parading around the White House?
fifteen years will not be bitter and angry? Was Anita expected to
clap and dance while some hot legs are parading around the White House?
This pastor’s wife was also disclaimed by her husband who told his
congregants in reaction to the divorce saga that Anita is not necessarily
a Woman of God. According to Pastor Oyakhilome “Don’t act like those
people. If you are married to a man of God, it doesn’t make you
automatically mature. You can make mistakes; you can do something
that is wrong. But some people expect the wife of a minister to definitely
be at the level of that minister and so they may be looked upon and the
expectation may be like that, but it’s a positional thing”. He clarified his
theory by saying that “If a man of God is married, it doesn’t automatically
mean that the wife of a man of God is therefore a woman of God.
That’s not the way it is in the Bible.” Pastor Chris also added that
“That’s why you don’t really find the wives of men of God
mentioned in the Bible. How many of them? Who was Peter’s wife,
did you ever know her name? You never find that out. Who
congregants in reaction to the divorce saga that Anita is not necessarily
a Woman of God. According to Pastor Oyakhilome “Don’t act like those
people. If you are married to a man of God, it doesn’t make you
automatically mature. You can make mistakes; you can do something
that is wrong. But some people expect the wife of a minister to definitely
be at the level of that minister and so they may be looked upon and the
expectation may be like that, but it’s a positional thing”. He clarified his
theory by saying that “If a man of God is married, it doesn’t automatically
mean that the wife of a man of God is therefore a woman of God.
That’s not the way it is in the Bible.” Pastor Chris also added that
“That’s why you don’t really find the wives of men of God
mentioned in the Bible. How many of them? Who was Peter’s wife,
did you ever know her name? You never find that out. Who
was John’s wife? Did you ever read the name? What about all the
other Apostles? How many of their names are written in the Bible.
You never find their names.”
other Apostles? How many of their names are written in the Bible.
You never find their names.”
Anita Oyakhilome actually proved that she has fear of God
in the manner she worded her divorce plea. She opted to use the
word “inappropriate relationship with female staff members”
instead of out rightly accusing her husband of adultery. According
to the statement, “the wife has discussed with the husband his
appropriate relationship with some of his female staff members.
She has explained that this has given her cause for concern.
The husband has minimized her worries and taken no step
to alleviate her grievances.”
in the manner she worded her divorce plea. She opted to use the
word “inappropriate relationship with female staff members”
instead of out rightly accusing her husband of adultery. According
to the statement, “the wife has discussed with the husband his
appropriate relationship with some of his female staff members.
She has explained that this has given her cause for concern.
The husband has minimized her worries and taken no step
to alleviate her grievances.”
Anita Oyakhilome could have said that her husband abandoned
her and ran into the arms of sister A or B, or gospel singer C or D
and left her roasting and murmuring in the house. Anita could have
said that her husband is a hypocrite who says a thing and means
another, but she veiled her grievances of years of abandonment by
saying in the divorce file that “The wife feels that she has been
used to portray and enhance the husband’s image as a family man
when the reality is that there is no existing relationship between them.
She feels that she has been present for official functions simply for
his convenience. On occasions she has been copied into his travel
itinerary which has been given to him by his staff on a need to know
basis”. “The wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the husband.
He claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive to her feelings and her needs.”
her and ran into the arms of sister A or B, or gospel singer C or D
and left her roasting and murmuring in the house. Anita could have
said that her husband is a hypocrite who says a thing and means
another, but she veiled her grievances of years of abandonment by
saying in the divorce file that “The wife feels that she has been
used to portray and enhance the husband’s image as a family man
when the reality is that there is no existing relationship between them.
She feels that she has been present for official functions simply for
his convenience. On occasions she has been copied into his travel
itinerary which has been given to him by his staff on a need to know
basis”. “The wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the husband.
He claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive to her feelings and her needs.”
Thus Anita had acted with much restraint in order to preserve the
integrity of Christ Embassy and the work of evangelism, and all she
got for her discretion was hate messages all many sections of church
members who wanted her to sacrifice her marriage to keep them in
a rhapsody of deceit.
integrity of Christ Embassy and the work of evangelism, and all she
got for her discretion was hate messages all many sections of church
members who wanted her to sacrifice her marriage to keep them in
a rhapsody of deceit.
This woman, according to the testimony of many British residents
who attend their church, is one person who is always willing to give
gifts to the needy. She is ever ready to counsel people and does not breed
class. She is a patient listener who laboriously introduced many things in
the church for which the glory goes to her husband. Londoners believe
that she is not that demon they want to portray her as. Those who know
her closely have attested to an affectionate good naturedness and stickler
for details.
who attend their church, is one person who is always willing to give
gifts to the needy. She is ever ready to counsel people and does not breed
class. She is a patient listener who laboriously introduced many things in
the church for which the glory goes to her husband. Londoners believe
that she is not that demon they want to portray her as. Those who know
her closely have attested to an affectionate good naturedness and stickler
for details.
Whatsoever thing some misguided church members want to think,
Anita had lived a lie for many years. Anita was said to have become
born again at believers Love world campus fellowship at Ambrose
Alli University Ekpoma, while Chris was thepastor. She had probably
paid her dues as a Christian and knows what it is to deceive the
congregation. She cannot deceive herself and the church any more
thus she opted for divorce. Divorce, according to scripture is
unbiblical, but between deceiving a congregation that already
knows the truth but pretends otherwise and staying in
unfulfilled marriage, which is better. It is a matter between
her and her conscience.
Anita had lived a lie for many years. Anita was said to have become
born again at believers Love world campus fellowship at Ambrose
Alli University Ekpoma, while Chris was thepastor. She had probably
paid her dues as a Christian and knows what it is to deceive the
congregation. She cannot deceive herself and the church any more
thus she opted for divorce. Divorce, according to scripture is
unbiblical, but between deceiving a congregation that already
knows the truth but pretends otherwise and staying in
unfulfilled marriage, which is better. It is a matter between
her and her conscience.
Last year, a Nigerian personality blogger by name Ese Walter
was lured by her Senior Pastor in Abuja into a cozy hotel bed
space in London and after two weeks of adultery, the man
cleaned up, returned to Nigeria and told his congregation to
shout some Hallelujah. The sin partner was arrested by the
Holy Spirit and she sought a meeting with the COZA Chief to
resolve the burden of guilt. She was continually shunned and
described as agent of Satan even by other senior pastors in the
church until she turned the internet into the confessional. Ese
Walter freed her conscience and probably escaped eternal
damnation but the entire Christendom took the brunt of the exposure.
was lured by her Senior Pastor in Abuja into a cozy hotel bed
space in London and after two weeks of adultery, the man
cleaned up, returned to Nigeria and told his congregation to
shout some Hallelujah. The sin partner was arrested by the
Holy Spirit and she sought a meeting with the COZA Chief to
resolve the burden of guilt. She was continually shunned and
described as agent of Satan even by other senior pastors in the
church until she turned the internet into the confessional. Ese
Walter freed her conscience and probably escaped eternal
damnation but the entire Christendom took the brunt of the exposure.
Pope Benedict made several attempts to stop the incidences
of homosexual pedophiles among priest and leaders in the Vatican.
His attempts were rebuffed by a cabal of officials who resisted probe
and pious change. In exasperation, the Pontiff abandoned the Papacy
and triggered the change that is being forced down on the resisting cabal.
Pope Benedict freed his conscience and left with clean records before his God.
of homosexual pedophiles among priest and leaders in the Vatican.
His attempts were rebuffed by a cabal of officials who resisted probe
and pious change. In exasperation, the Pontiff abandoned the Papacy
and triggered the change that is being forced down on the resisting cabal.
Pope Benedict freed his conscience and left with clean records before his God.
Anita has chosen to free herself from a life of deceit and lies.
The truth had set her free. However, I still counsel her that if
the misbehaving preacher husband demonstrates a verifiable
change of heart, she should consider him back and so that somebody
can shout some more Hallelujah. Fifteen years of adulterous endurance
in the midst of charismatic rhapsody is not easy and Anita Oyakhilome
sure needs all the defense and understanding she can get- Let somebody
shout a better Hallelujah !
The truth had set her free. However, I still counsel her that if
the misbehaving preacher husband demonstrates a verifiable
change of heart, she should consider him back and so that somebody
can shout some more Hallelujah. Fifteen years of adulterous endurance
in the midst of charismatic rhapsody is not easy and Anita Oyakhilome
sure needs all the defense and understanding she can get- Let somebody
shout a better Hallelujah !
Obinna Akukwe
profetobinna2@yahoo.com
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